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| Friday, December 25th, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ swirlingcloud ]
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10:32a |
help
Last month when I was on the Pill I missed a lot of the pills and it took a few days for my period to start after I took the last one (it usually starts right away) and that was 3 weeks ago. Every day this week I've been passing blood clots and the flow the entire time has been like a normal period, not just light or spotting. I've had mild back pain and some moderate cramping the entire time. I went to Planned Parenthood where I usually get my care and the woman at the desk rudely told me that it was just because I missed pills last month and brushed off the fact I had a backache and told me it wasn't related. She gave me an appointment later that afternoon but I didn't go because of how nasty she was. Should I see a doctor asap? I'm starting to feel really lousy, like all the blood's been drained from me (I used to be anemic, so I'm assuming that's the issue again). |
| Sunday, December 20th, 2009 |
sextips
[ nycnightsalways ]
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4:44p |
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sextips
[ dupermonster ]
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12:39a |
Hi again everyone, I'm trying to find a reputable website that sells women's corsets/bustiers with garter belts... something dominatrix-y. Not teddies but corsets, something waist-length with garter straps... Anyway, Amazon sells mostly pleather and polyester and I was hoping to find something of better quality that's not too hard on the wallet. Macy's doesn't have that much to choose from, neither does Victoria's Secret. Any suggestions? |
| Wednesday, December 16th, 2009 |
sextips
[ gurleygurlpie ]
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10:29p |
boyfriend is disinterested in sex
My boyfriend of over one year is disinterested in sex. Originally, the disinterest was caused by inexperience and performance anxiety. However, after many, many attempts to successfully have sexual intercourse and discussions about his fears/worries, we were finally able to have good sex. This was in the spring. His higher libido only lasted a few months though (late March to July). By August he was already disinterested in sex (not just piv, but ALL forms of sex) again. He constantly tells me how much he loves me, but it makes me think that he is only emotionally interested in me. I am the type of person who values a healthy sex life in a relationship and his lack of interest in sex is causing me to question if he is boyfriend material for me. We have talked about this issue on several occasions, but nothing seems to change. He blames in on his 'low libido' and 'not understanding his own body'. I have encouraged him to practice masturbating as a way for him to become more knowledgeable about his body (since he only masturbated in his junior year of high school/when he was sixteen years old) and/or to seek professional guidance. He seems to listen to my suggestions, but does not act upon them. I am beginning to question his sexuality/maturity since he expresses no interest in having any type of sex. Any advice on what to do about this situation? I am about to throw in the towel out of frustration and rejection. |
| Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ timetoknowbe ]
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6:39a |
Hypoglycemia?
I went to the doctor awhile back for some blood work. I'd been having a lot of vague and extremely annoying symptoms, but when I actually went to the doctor, I'd been feeling fine for a few days. They did a finger prick test to check my blood sugar, which was between 70-80. They did a CBC and every result was completely, perfectly normal (blood sugar was somewhere between 70-80). Is it possible to have normal results and still suffer from hypoglycemia often enough to mess with your life? When I had the tests done, I was feeling fine. Would that matter? Is it at all possible this is still the issue? Mostly just asking because this seems to be the only obvious thing that fits, and if this absolutely isn't the problem, I don't even know where to go from here. (The symptoms bothering me were mostly extremely low energy, nausea, dizziness, lightheadedness, disorientation, feeling like crying, extremely low energy, extremely excessive sleeping, total inability to concentrate most of the time, body temperature was completely ridiculous--would go from freezing to sweating I was so hot even though the temperature in the room never changed, and muscle twitches. These would last almost without any interruption for weeks at a time, and it's started to become a slight problem again.) |
womenhealth
[ neffiline ]
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6:36a |
Constant pee feeling
Hello ladies, This morning after I got out of the shower I felt the feeling to pee so I went, but nothing came out. I'd already gone once as soon as I woke up. It's been an hour and that constant feeling of needing to go pee is still there. I've gone to the bathroom several time but there's either barely a few drop or nothing at all. I'm just wondering if I should wait it out for a few days or go see my doctor right away? I know this could be a sign of UTI as I've read about it before. Though, I've never had a UTI before, no kind of infections ever, nor any STDs. I recently (about 3 weeks ago) became sexually active again (after almost 2 years!). We both got checked and we're both clean, we use the condom and I've been taking the pill for the past 5 years (alesse). I've never had this problem before so it's really bugging me. Thanks a lot! Current Mood:  worried |
| Monday, December 21st, 2009 |
sexual_health
[ firefoxerika ]
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10:13p |
weird bodily question
I have a question about my body...I'm 21, I lost my virginity when I was 16 to an averaged sized guy. We didn't have sex that much (in two years I think we did it maybe three times). My next boyfriend was a lil bigger but still comfortable. I've been using three different sized vibrators since I was about 18. My question is that I think I still have my hymen (however you spell it). It's uncomfortable when I try to use my large vibrator, and it's a rather large piece of skin running vertically...it's weird...is it ok to cut it or should I go see a doctor to get rid of it? Thanks for the advice |
| Sunday, December 20th, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ violintree ]
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9:43p |
So I'm sexually active, and last month my period lasted a little over a week. I had about 3 days of normal bleeding, then brown spotting for the rest of the time. Now this month, I got my period yesterday. Today I still had it but it was very light, and now it appears to be gone. What's happening? We use condoms AND I am on the pill..... |
| Monday, December 21st, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ phoenixwind ]
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11:26a |
Aching breasts?
Hello For the past few months I've noticed that sometimes, my breasts ache. Its not like the sensitivity they normally get when I'm about to begin my cycle... its kind of like a vague pain somewhere in my chest, that only lasts for a few seconds. At first I thought it was my heart hurting, but it aches in both my left and right breasts. I've felt around and there are no lumps of any sort. Just this weird ache every now and again. Should I be worried? |
| Sunday, December 20th, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ pandapajamas ]
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5:08p |
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womenhealth
[ pandapajamas ]
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1:18p |
US: Senate BANS ABORTIONS via State Loophole - Contact The White House!
Hi Friends and Colleagues, I am writing to urge you to contact the White House and let President Obama know that you are opposed to BOTH the Senate and House versions of the currently propose health care reform. Like most of you, I too have been filling out petitions, blogging and Twittering about these underhanded attempts in our Congress to violate women's fundamental Constitutional right to abortion. I understand it has become tiring and seems repetitive, but the fact of the matter is that no one in power seems to be listening to the big advocacy organizations like NARAL, Planned Parenthood or NOW, so I think it is time that folks as individuals make their voices heard. Please keep in mind that contacting our Senators did not stop the most recent anti-abortion amendment being pushed through without the approval of the majority of the Senate. In my mind, this means that it has gone beyond the point of people asking their elected officials to look out for their interests. If these officials were able to adequately represent us, we wouldn't have a small cabal of three or four persons (most of them white men, who will never become pregnant), flagrantly ignoring the procedures of the Senate, while being given the approval of The White House in the process. So, pick up the phone, fax or email The White House TODAY! They can be reached here: http://www.whitehouse.gov/CONTACT/I suggest that folks also write letters to the editors of their newspapers, magazines and television stations and DEMAND that they interview local citizens about their opinions regarding this health care reform and the subversion of abortion rights, because I for one am sick and tired of only reading pieces with commentary by the advocacy groups when again, it seems as though those same groups are not being heard or are not engaging in an effective manner with our representatives. The whole thing stinks and feels very gamed to me. In my experience, the best way to effectively deal with these types of situations is to introduce a third party (namely individuals citizens), who can use the internet or other means so that their voices are actually seen and heard. Here is a thorough explanation as to how the current Nelson amended Senate Bill will restrict women and trans folks' (FTMs and genderqueers) access to abortions and other reproductive health services: http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2009/12/20/the-nelson-compromiseHere is a look into the pork barrel bribe that was offered to Senator Nelson and the State of Nebraska in exchange for his 60th vote, which came at the expense of reproductive freedom: http://biggovernment.com/2009/12/19/sen-nelsons-bribe/Here is a breakdown of why the health care reform overall is horrible for US people and our future health and financial well being: http://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/12/19/816961/-Why-This-Senate-Health-Bill-Should-Not-PassYours in Feminist Solidarity! Current Mood:  determined |
womenhealth
[ redtypewriter ]
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10:23a |
Project
Hopefully this is okay to post here. But I'd like to encourage other people involved in women's health to get involved with this project.
Please feel free to spread the word!
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| Friday, December 18th, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ darkserena ]
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12:21a |
Long-term depression - no more options?
I've been struggling with anxiety and depression since I was about 13, and have had my ups and downs since then. I'm 22 now (nearly 23) and while I am in a great university and have some great friends, for the past 2 or 3 years my depression has been debilitating. ( I think I need to rant/talk about stuff... Got long. )I doubt there's anything anyone can suggest or say that will help. Getting that all out only marginally helped. Thanks for reading though? I'm open to suggestions, just not very hopeful at this point. Feel free to delete if this is too long-winded or whatever to be here. |
| Thursday, December 17th, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ lady__delirium ]
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1:20p |
In Canada, will a walk in clinic remove a skin tag? |
| Wednesday, December 16th, 2009 |
sextips
[ horrorsale ]
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11:21a |
so when my boyfriend goes down on me, when it builds up and i'm digging it, it starts to get uncomfortable where it feels like a tickle fight and i feel like i need to pee really badly (but i don't); is this considered a normal part of climaxing? do other girls enjoy this? i just feel like i need to stop but like that's a bummer, not being able to get off on oral. now i just feel hesitant about being eaten out and i don't want this sensation to ruin oral for me. when i end up doing is biting my hand and wait until he does something else. and not really a concern but a curiosity, how long until it stopped hurting for girls after they started having sex or how long until they started enjoying it? |
sextips
[ cassielee09 ]
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2:30a |
Oral sex: Girls who like it...
I searched the memories and didnt find any on this topic. I happen to be a girl who enjoys giving head as if it were a favor to me (unless being forced to do it) I get a rush from it and it definitly never feels like a chore. I have met others who agree but not many. any one else? |
sextips
[ juberi2005 ]
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3:25a |
lack of sex/intrest/drive
So, I looked in the memories and I couldn't exactly find a story that fit my situation so I figured I'd give it a shot. Let me give you guys a little bit of a back story. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 28. We've been together for 7 months and we've known each other for 6 years. We've been throw alot in the last 6 years. I was with another guy for the last 3 years, that was very abusive and ended in a rape and a pfa. He has survived cancer twice. We dated once when we were younger and we decided to give it another go. After my long term relationship ended, I wanted nothing to do with a serious relationship. So I dated casually and I did have one or two one night stands. They were fun, the sex was great and I didn't have to commit to any of them. When I was in the 3 year relationship, the sex was horrible. I felt trapped, like I was an object, I was resentful and I had no drive at all. And Now that I am out of that relationship, my drive is amazing. While I was casually dating when I was with someone, I could tell them exactly what I wanted, how I wanted ect. I had no problem. I was not self-conscious at all. I was actually very dominant. When the boyfriend and I started dating, that all changed. When we started having sex, I got nervous. Foreplay was no big deal, I had no problem making out and all that, but when it came to the part where he pants actually came off, I found myself being very nervous and unsure of myself. I of course pushed through it, thinking it was maybe me just liking him to much, that I didn't want to mess anything up or me trying to be perfect. I've always been very comfortable with sex. With the people I've been with, being able to openly discuss it, and now its all changed. My boyfriend on the other hand, is completely different. He is shy even though he says he isnt. He is on celexra, which is an anti-depressant, which I thought could be the problem too. When we first started to sleep together, you could tell that he was nervous, and usually its a big turn on when a guy is intimidated by me, but not this time. And yes, he has called me intimidating. I of course was very dominate, because if I wasnt, I feel we would have gotten no where fast. The first couple of times, I was very dominate and then I started to ease off, giving him more control and such, which is a nice change of pace. Well, that is were it all went downhill, I think. We started to have a shot or 2, before anything sexual started. I think it calmed both of our nerves and everything seemed to be ok. Pictures were taken, videos were made, we openly discussed things we wanted to try. This went on for awhile, then we hit a dry spell. He told me it was his medication and after a about 3 weeks, we were back to normal. We then started to drink more. Well, he did. We'd drink and play cards or whatever and then I couldn't keep his hands off me. The in October, we stopped drinking. We still had sex and I was honestly still nervous. I still could not bring myself to tell him what felt good and what didn't. Was I scared I was going to hurt his feelings? Yes. He was already shy, I didnt want to make it worse..well I did. Early November, after a night of drinking and from a dry spell of 2 weeks, we had sex, or at least tried. He might have lasted all of 5 minutes. Which could have been the liquor or the dry spell, either way I let out a very aggravated, drunk "You've got to be kidding me". And yes, I understand how horrible that was and I apologized the next day. I honestly wouldn't have cared, if he was like "let me finger you to get you off" or something but he doesnt offer. And he knows how much I love it. But then I have to show him what to do, which I am getting better at. So I can see where I'm at fault too.I know he does masturbate, cause he used to be very open with it. So I dont think its his endurance? We've had sex once after that, and I we were sober, took about 45 mins to actually start having sex and we might have been 10 mins in when he asked if I got off because he did awhile ago and didnt want to tell me. I pretty much rolled off him, said that wasnt cool and told him we'd discuss it later. We'll we never did. And everytime I try, we get no where. Its almost like he doesnt hear me and changes the subject. We are a very strong couple besides the whole lack of sex. We are very close, we dont see each other everyday, mostly on the weekends but talk all the time. When we first started out, we used to dirty text each other, send pictures and make out. God, I love to make out, we never do anymore. We Kiss, but it goes no further. We still cuddle and sleep in the same bed and we're very affection otherwise. I've tried everything, to skimpy clothing, doing things that usually used to initiate sex, like kissing his neck or touching on of his hot spots. Nothing. And now when I mention something dirty or send a dirty text, it gets ignored. I am now getting self-conscious. I invited him in the shower the other night, and I get "Im not the shower kind of guy" when he used to text me all the things he wanted to do to me in the shower. Heck, all he wanted for his birthday was sex, and he spent the whole night playing warcraft. I'm out of ideas. I don't want to badger him or make it seem like its all about sex, cause it isnt, but I don't want to be missing out. lately he has grinded with me when we've cuddled and I've grinded back and it ends there. I know, He's turned on and that he's hard but its like he won't take the next step. And I've been rejected to many times that I just can't take it anymore. The Old Me would have been able to come out and say "let's F*ck" and for some reason I cant. I understand its all about communication, we ourselves have said that to each other. We talk about everything, personal or not. It just when it comes to sex, it's like we're both scared and I don't understand why. I'm sorry if I confused anyone, I just have alot on my mind and I just want to give enough information as possible. Does anyone have any experience with this? Current Mood:  confused |
| Tuesday, December 15th, 2009 |
womenhealth
[ dearmisterecho ]
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12:18p |
Itchy/sensitive nipples D:
The past 2 or so weeks I've had the most annoyingly itchy/sensitive nipples. I swear a 36DD, so you can understand that they bounce around a lot, and thus scrape against my bras/shirts. This never used to be a problem, but they have been so itchy as of late. I just feel them all the time - the only way I don't feel the itchy/sensitivity is if I literally just crush them down into a pillow while laying on my stomach, or if I squeeze them to numb them up. I'm afraid I'm going to damage tissue soon because I've seriously had enough of this. What the hell is the problem? My BC pill taking was haphazard the last week before my period - had to take two on tuesday, one on wednesday, and I ended up missing my last three. It all started that week, so are my hormones just going insane? I know they aren't growing, cause that makes my entire breast itch, but this is just centered on the nipples - mostly my right one. what can I do to relieve this? I've been using benadryl cream, and it burns real bad, but gets the job done. |
| Sunday, December 13th, 2009 |
sextips
[ lovinglimbs ]
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7:51p |
Giving Pleasure?
Hey, I've made one other question post here before, and got a lot of helpful advice/tips, so I thought I'd ask another question :) & I looked through the memories and I couldn't quite find what I was looking for, if I missed it, apologies! To get to the point, my boyfriend isn't that fond of giving oral sex, he had never done it before me, and I was surprised he wanted to do it at all. He said early on in our relationship, that wasn't his thing, that he might do it if the girl asked, but he didn't really want to. Well, one evening he wanted too, and it went really great, for me that is. I'm a really self-conscious person, and receiving oral can get uncomfortable for me, but the pleasure of it is enough for me to want it to happen. But it's been about a month since that happened (we've been together 2 1/2 months), and he hasn't indicated it ever happening again. He said he has to be a specific mood for it, and he said these moods are rare. Now, he gets about two blow jobs a day, for ever day I see him. Now I don't get to see him that often, since he goes to a university two hours away from where I'm at. But in our entire sex life, he receives more oral than we do anything else, at all. Blow jobs over PIV, fingering, very little attention towards me. Now, he realizes the unequal sex life we have, and he said he was sorry, and he felt bad, and that I don't have to do all of this for him, if I want it a little bit more even. But, I want it even, but not with me giving less head, because that will reduce our sex life, a TON. But I don't want him to do anything out of obligation. I want him to want to do it, I don't want him to do anything he's uncomfortable with or feeling forced to do. Sorry, rambling! I'm trying to change this. I'd like to even this out a little bit, to where I got more, but he'd be doing it more out of obligation than him truly wanting to do it, because if he wants to do something, he usually goes for it. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on ways to get a guy to enjoy giving pleasure a little bit more? I realize to each their own, etc. But is their any general ideas anyone might have? BTW. I'm not necessarily unhappy with the sex life I have with him, especially since he recognizes how unequal it is, but I really would like it to change. Sorry for all of this rambling, I hope I got my point across. And thanks in advance everyone :) |
womenhealth
[ captain_corky ]
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10:01p |
birth control and antibiotics...
Hey, back with a new question :) I just got my B/C refilled when I got pnemonia. I had been regularly taking the BC for about 4 days and started my antibiotics, I was so sick I just didn't take my BC, a couple of days later I started bleeding. and having cramps like a normal period. which made me even more miserable... I started the pack of BC right after my latest period so I was not due and now I've been steadily discharging redish, now brown fluid. actually it only appears on my tiolet paper never really comes out other wise... Is this normal because of irregular use of BC and antibiotics? Never had this happen before. There's really not much chance I'm pregnant. |
womenhealth
[ villagetheatre ]
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9:46p |
in-grown hairs
Hey everyone - recently I've had a lot of red bumps on my legs after shaving - one or two on each leg, maybe - even though I moisturize. They're a little itchy too. Is there anything I can do to stop this? |
| Saturday, December 12th, 2009 |
sextips
[ accident__sex ]
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8:52p |
First Time Switch?
So, yesterday was my partner's birthday, and in honor of that I think I'd like to do something that's completely out of the ordinary for us. We have an informal but pretty much full-time D/s dynamic. I'm exclusively dominant-- I've never had any interest in subbing and the idea just doesn't get me off. My partner, however, is a switch, but for the course of our roughly year-and-some-change-long relationship, he has been submissive to me. We're poly and will occasionally play with friends, but he hasn't had another regular partner in over a year so he hasn't had much of a chance to express his toppy side. Because of all of this, I'd like to switch with him as a birthday present. We've talked about it a bit, and I know he's intrigued by the idea ("You mean, you'll let me do to you all of the horrible things you've done to me?!"), and his enthusiasm is infectious. Besides, I've never really seen him top before, and I want to know what his style is. Obviously we'll be doing a lot of talking about the specifics before anything happens, but I'll be honest-- I need some general encouragement. What can I do drop the dom mindset for a few hours? Will adding some sort of role play dynamic make it easier? Part of me feels like being "someone else," like in a role play scene, will help me get away from seeing things the way I normally do. I have a bit of a masochistic streak, but usually when it surfaces, I want to go blow-for-blow-- I like play that's a battle. That's not what we're going for here, and I need to control my urge to not bite back. I'm excited to try it and fairly certain that it'll be a great time, but in order for this to work, I really have to hand over the reins, something I've never done before. I'm happy to take the challenge, but I'm looking for suggestions for ways to shed my toppy inclinations and our usual dynamic for a few hours. Switches, do you have any suggestions? Non-switches who have tried something like this before, how did it turn out? If you enjoyed it, what made it fun? What difficulties did you face? (x-posted to ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) sextips & askthekinksters) |
sextips
[ nutmeg_05 ]
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2:12a |
2 things...
1] Does anyone else think it feels better with a condom? When my boyfriend and I first started, we used condoms, but then once I got on my birth control again he stopped using them, and I don't enjoy it as much. It's still good, but everything feels better with it on. :\ 2] A lot of the time when I have sex, I get sharp pains. My boyfriend is bigger than anyone else I've ever been with, so I'm assuming that's why, but it doesn't happen all the time. And when it hurts, it hurts. I kind of don't want to tell him, though, because other than that the sex is absolutely amazing and I don't want to ruin anything... for me or for him. Any help is much appreciated. :) |
| Friday, December 11th, 2009 |
sextips
[ namandra ]
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5:46p |
Sensitivity Question
What material should you shoot for when buying a dildo if you are sensitive to most anything in and around your vaginal region? |
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